Jordan Foster, Taylor Olsen, Eliza Howard, and Lauren Solomon

Part of becoming a mom often entails finding your crew. Having like-minded, rockstar women around you to lean on for the what to do, what to buy, and what the f*cks(!), is key to making it through pregnancy and into early motherhoodJoin us as these four friends dish on all the things that no one tells you, plus how they view career and mamahood.

Jordan Foster, Partner at La Marque

What no one tells you…

Pregnancy hurts!  I’ve really struggled with muscle and ligament pains in my stomach & ribs.

It’s a fallacy…people don’t actually get up for you on the subway, at least for the most part.

Pregnancy can cause really bad congestion!  I’ve suffered with it throughout my entire pregnancy, and to add insult to injury, I snore so loudly now that my husband sleeps in a separate room!

You’ll be exhausted way earlier than you expect. I was desperate to go to sleep by 7pm every night as early as 2 months pregnant and I was under the impression that didn’t happen until the very end.

No matter what you think, you’ll become the person that constantly talks about their pregnancy + babies, and you’ll love every second of it. 

If your pregnancy were a song…

Probably a different song for every trimester, as every day has been different!

1st trimester:  “I’m so Tired” by the Beatles…self-explanatory

2nd trimester: “Smooth Sailin” by Leon Bridges…2nd trimester is easy and lovely!

3rd trimester: “Into the Mystic” by Van Morrison…3rd trimester is when I really started to change on the inside. You automatically become a mother even before the baby arrives. You’re filled with so much excitement, anxiety, and life! It’s been the best feeling on the planet. You’re truly entering the unknown, in the greatest way possible

La Marque is…

La Marque is made up of myself, Meredith Melling & Valerie Macaulay. We’re celebrity stylists based in NYC and LA. It’s an exciting time as we’re growing every day!  We’ve just hired a new stylist to join the team and our clients have big things coming in 2018—it’s always wonderful to be part of their journey. 

Will your job affect the way you’re raising your kid?

My job is a huge part of my life and who I am as a person, therefore I think it will absolutely affect how I raise my child.  My job has very inconsistent hours and is different every day, so we’ll all have to be flexible. This will work in the reverse too as raising my kid will have an affect on my job. I won’t be available 24/7 as I’ve always been. 

Important for kids to see their mom working?

Yes, but not in the traditional sense of “work”, in my opinion.  What’s most important is for kids to see their mom happy. If that means having a full-time job with long hours, then great.  If that means being a stay-at-home mom, then that’s great too.  My mother was a stay-at-home single mom to three girls and loved every second of it! It was a great environment to grow up in.

Any advice…

I’ll keep this to pregnancy. A lot of women can be really judgmental about how you choose to live your life during your pregnancy, how you choose to deliver your baby, and your plan for after you give birth.  Therefore, my advice is to ignore it all.  JUST DO YOU.  You know your body best, you know yourself best, and you know what your baby needs.  

Taylor Olsen, Dior Director of Marketing and Client Development

What no one tells you…

The excitement and joy of it all!

Stay busy, even though everyone always says to rest. While I agree, rest is important, keeping my routine and focusing on my work has helped me avoid morning sickness.

Surprising your loved ones with the news is the MOST thrilling moment of your life! We told our family and friends one by one. We’re not big “social media people”, so there was no big reveal, plus it was much more fun to see everyone’s reaction in person.

The outpouring of love from friends and family is so incredible.

Zantac will be your best friend

If your pregnancy were a song…

Dancing In The Moonlight—my favorite summer song.

On body and boobs…

It’s been thrilling to go from a 32B to a 32D without surgery 😉

Plus, I just popped, so now I do a double take every time I pass by a mirror—it’s hilarious!

Important for kids to see their mom working?

VERY! My mom worked—she dressed to the ‘T’ every day in a fabulous outfit with pumps, make up, and perfume. I loved when she would pick me up from school looking so chic! I want to be just like her.

On your job affecting the way you’re raising your kid…

I love what I do, each day is so different!  I meet so many interesting and inspiring women & men every day. I’m so grateful for all of the experiences I’ve had and will continue to have! Perhaps this will effect my son as well, plus he’s likely have a taste for French food 😉 Laurence and I are often in Paris at the same time—which means baby and nanny will come for the ride (until he is in school, that is).

Any advice…

I’ve been hearing a lot of, ‘How are YOU going to do YOUR job with a baby?’

To be honest, I never thought I could even be pregnant and sustain my job, yet here I am at almost 7 months pregnant and haven’t missed a beat!  Life is so beautiful, exciting, and fun—embrace it! Don’t overthink how you’ll adapt your life to changes in the future, make the changes when they’re necessary in the present. Plus, being pregnant has really opened my eyes to how much stronger women are then men! Laurence (my husband) agrees too 😉

Eliza Howard, EHT Financial

What no one tells you…

Peeing when you sneeze from time to time is going to happen, but the best way to combat that is to do your kegels!!! 

I’m definitely an emotional pregnant person. I cry several times a day (mostly happy tears, from commercials).

Your body is so fragile when you’re pregnant, so take it seriously when people tell you not to lift heavy objects or reach for things on high shelves.  I learned this the hard way, herniating two discs in my back from reaching for a book on a shelf at 8 months pregnant. 

If your pregnancy were a song…

Wheels on the Bus

Important for kids to see their mom working?

I think it’s important for kids to see that their mom is passionate about something. Whether that’s a career or a passion for being a super involved stay-at-home Mom (hardest job on earth).  I don’t think it matters as long as you can show your kids that you’re truly passionate about what you are doing. 

From Goldman to running your own business…

I run my own business as a financial consultant and part-time CFO for start-ups. In the early stages of a business, a full-time CFO is rarely necessary but companies often need financial advice and help with financial projections. That’s where I come in. It’s a really fun job because I get to learn about companies in all types of industries and super exciting when I see my clients succeed.  For example, I’ve been working with The Wing since before they were called The Wing, and it’s been such a thrill to see their rapid success. Plus, as a mom it’s the perfect job because I work from home and can keep my own hours. 

Any advice…

I felt really guilty initially that I’d get bored sitting on the floor for hours with my daughter playing until my mom reminded me that blocks weren’t created for grown-ups to play with—she reassured me that it’s totally ok to feel bored! Bottomline, it’s totally normal to feel that way and that doesn’t make you a bad mom. 

Lauren J. Solomon, LJ STYLE

What no one tells you…

The constant need to pee at ALL times, even throughout the night.

First indulgence, post baby…

Sushi and a dirty martini 😉

Body and boobs…

I’ve felt great throughout my pregnancy! I’ve traveled and worked as I normally would have. I think staying active and not changing my life was so important for me. It’s amazing what our bodies are capable of! 

From corporate to LJStyle…

I started out in corporate fashion and after a few years realized what my true talents were. I decided to go into styling, first with more editorial/tv and eventually moving into private styling. I launched my company LJStyle as a private, boutique business focusing on women whose image and wardrobe needs to be kept at the highest standard. My approach is fully custom, beginning with a full closet reorganization and management to full seasonal shopping & styling based on individual needs. 

Any advice…

All is possible. Do what you love and are passionate about. Never worry about the rest, as it’ll all fall into place. 

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