HATCH at HOME: Conz Preti
We recently had the pleasure of getting to know a few HATCH mamas in real life here in New York City. They invited us into their homes, at all stages of pregnancy (and postpartum!), to chat through the different ways they arrived at motherhood, their highs and lows, and their go-to pregnancy beauty products. Above all else, they kept it real real. And that’s what we love most about our HATCH community.
This week, meet Conz Preti, a Brooklyn-based writer with twins on the way. On the verge of becoming a mom of three (!!), and after suffering a miscarriage, this Motherly editor decided to document her journey in an online video diary, which you can see here. Here, she discusses her pregnancy journey, advice to her pre-mama self, baby cuddles, plus how her pregnancy beauty routine has her glowing. Read on to get to know Conz.
Describe your path to pregnancy.
We had a miscarriage right before this pregnancy which made me hyper aware of the fragility of early pregnancy. My first pregnancy was a unicorn, it happened the first time we tried and it was super easy. The second time around it also happened the first time we tried but sadly despite everything looking “great” at 9 weeks there was no more heartbeat. Getting pregnant this time around took about 5 months, a lot of tracking my cycle and by the last month I was getting anxious about yet another negative pregnancy test. I decided I wanted to take the summer off and enjoy it without the pressure of peeing on ovulation sticks and all that, and boom, I got pregnant without noticing.
What surprised you the most about motherhood/pregnancy?
I felt like no one talked about the real stuff about motherhood, especially going from no kids to the first. I was miserable the first couple of months and felt like I was failing because everyone else around me had this mask on of ‘everything is great!’ Because of that I chose to be more open and transparent on social media, so no mom ever felt as lonely and isolated as I did with breastfeeding, sleep deprivation, loss of self.
How did your beauty routine change after getting pregnant?
I started looking for more natural products and less ingredients I couldn’t pronounce. I also focused on the most basic step: hydration. Now all I want is for my body and face to feel hydrated. I can take off the rest at some other point. What’s interesting is that by reducing my products and going more natural (less make up, etc) my breakouts have improved a lot. Maybe it’s the hormones or maybe it’s my body saying this is all we need. With this pregnancy since it’s twins, I’m going ALL out on keep my belly super duper moisturized to try and avoid stretch mark and itching as much as possible.
Advice to your pre-mama (or pre-pregnancy) self?
It’s going to be rough at the beginning (both pregnancy and motherhood) but it gets better as days and months go by. There’s days I miss the spontaneity my life used to have before kids, but when I’m not around my son I miss him so much and I know days with an empty quiet house will come and I will miss so much when they were little and wanted mama snuggles all day long.
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What do you LOVE about being pregnant?
Pregnancy is still wild to me. First time around I could not believe I was growing organs inside my body. Now that I’m carrying twins, every time I see them in an ultrasound my mind is blown at what my body can do. Two babies are growing in there! And they started off as cells. I know it’s pretty basic biology but I’m still fascinated by it.
Anything else you’d like to add?
I’ve decided to document my journey through my twin pregnancy in a mini-series for Mother.ly since I believe there is not enough visibility about the rollercoaster pregnancy is and even more so how much harder a twin pregnancy can be. It’s become quite therapeutical to log my feelings daily and hopefully, it helps other mamas out there feel less alone in this journey.
Tune in to Conz’ twin pregnancy journey here.