HATCH at HOME: Melissa Rosenfield
We recently had the pleasure of getting to know a few HATCH mamas in real life here in New York City. They invited us into their homes, at all stages of pregnancy (and postpartum!), to chat through the different ways they arrived at motherhood, their highs and lows, and their go-to pregnancy beauty products. Above all else, they kept it real real. And that’s what we love most about our HATCH community.
This week, meet boss lady and first time mama Melissa Rosenfield. Here, she shares her unexpected road to pregnancy, the importance of saying “no” to things (but also saying “yes” to ice cream), plus her advice for other first time mamas.
Describe your path to pregnancy.
It was a pretty unconventional one since we were not planning to have a baby this year, I was on birth control (no I didn’t mess it up, no I wasn’t on antibiotics) however my partner Robert always wanted to be a dad. I thought we would be parents someday but was hoping to wait a little longer, now I know sometimes a baby just wants to be here 😉
What surprised you the most about motherhood/pregnancy?
I was surprised about my pregnancy because it was unexpected and when that happens everything after it is surprise. I was VERY lucky and was able to keep up my routines, workouts etc because I didn’t really show until the end. I was surprised to have a baby boy, I had a feeling but we didn’t know until he got here. Now that I’m a mom and I’m surprised at how much I actually loved being pregnant. I only wish I had taken more pictures of my pregnant body. The only way to describe pregnancy is SURREAL. It surprises me everyday that I co-created this human, and I get to keep him forever.
How did your beauty routine change after getting pregnant?
I’ve always paired back my make up and beauty routines in the summer because with a little natural glow you dont need more than a brow and a drop of mascara. I did start to look for more natural, pregnancy-safe options and discovered so many of my beloved brands were “safe enough” but there were better alternatives that were within arms reach. With the exception of hormonal dark spots, my skin was pretty glowy throughout my pregnancy and I credit that to fewer products and using cleaner alternatives. Since having the baby I am still keeping it pretty streamlined.
Advice to your pre-pregnancy self?
Take more advantage of being pregnant. I didn’t ever ‘feel” pregnant whatever that means. Give yourself a little (ok a lot) of GRACE!!! I wish I had taken more pictures of my pregnant body. And I wish I had taken more advantage of being able to do whatever I did and didn’t want to do meaning YES I’m skipping that dinner, YES I want to eat pizza today, NO I do not want to go to do that thing or go that place. People show up at your house when you have a baby, you will get to see everyone even if you skip meeting them out when you are pregnant. Also I would take more advantage of my pregnancy pillow and take it with me more places because I love it and Robert kicked it out of bed the date Sidney was born.
Your pregnancy style in one word?
NOT PREGNANT hahaha or “New Yorker”
What did you LOVE about being pregnant?
Feeling strong, glowing skin, eating ice cream everyday (sometimes twice) cutting lines in Portugal on our babymoon cause it’s the law, seats on the subway in August, everyone saying “wow you look amazing”, wearing flowy dresses I would never wear otherwise without looking like an 80s Laura Ashley campaign, talking to my unborn baby about everything he would get to see when he got here and the surprise of NOT KNOWING IF IT WAS A BOY OR GIRL!
Anything else you want to add!
If you’re not a “I want to be a mom” mama or pregnant woman it’s OK. This is the time in your life when everything is totally weird but weird turns to surreal the moment you meet your little one. It isn’t a competition, every body and pregnancy and baby is different. There were times when I felt competitive, there were times when I felt frustrated but ultimately it’s your own journey and do with it whatever makes you comfortable. And not drinking for 9-10 months isn’t that hard I promise.